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Let us love

As February comes upon us, we are reminded that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. It’s a time when we’re supposed to be focus on love. For stores, it’s the time when we focus on buying something for that special someone we love. I remember as a kid getting the packs of Valentine’s Day cards and picking which ones were going to go to which friends at school. It was always fun. Some people treasure Valentine’s Day and for others it is a painful reminder of love lost or love ones lost.

As we approach this holiday, I encourage you to think on what it means to love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 teaches us about love. This isn’t something that we do once or twice a year, but should be the mark of our daily lives. On the night when Jesus was betrayed, he shared a meal with his friends. He took this final time before the coming trial to share some important lessons with them. As he tells them of what is about to happen, he gives them this command for when he is gone from them. He says, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (John 13:34-35). Jesus’ love for his friends and followers was profound. It was different than any they’d experienced and they’d find out in just a few hours’ time just how deep that love is.

I encourage you in this. If you have a brother or a sister who has hurt your feelings, made you angry, or you just plain don’t like, make sure that you show them love. There are those who look in and want to see that we’re different. They want to see that what we believe really does make a change in us. They want to see Jesus Christ acting in the lives of his believers. So, what does this type of love look like?

We are to be patient with one another. Even when the well of patience seems to run dry, the Holy Spirit makes living water well up within us. That living water helps grow us so we produce the Fruit of the Spirit part of which is patience.

We are to be kind. Kindness and gentleness go hand in hand. We are often taught to treat others as we want to be treated. We want to be respected. We want to be understood. And, when we do something wrong, we want to be forgiven. Kindness enables us to do that. Kindness is love in action.

We are to avoid pride in all of its forms. Envy, boasting, dishonoring others so that we appear better or to try to get revenge for a hurt, all of these focus us inward rather than outward. How can we truly show love to others if we are focused only on ourselves? Jesus did not seek his own glory, but rather the glory of his father. So we should also see God’s glory rather than our own.

We should avoid showing love with the purpose of receiving love or thanks in return. Love is a gift and it is an act. It is not something done to receive payment whether through money, deeds, or gratitude. It is done because through loving others, we glorify God and reflect the love he gives us.

We should avoid being easily angered and we should not keep a record of wrongs done to us. Anger is a valid emotion, although it can be a dangerous one. That’s why we’re told to not let the sun go down on our anger. Anger nursed and nourished leads to a vast range of sins. We should be careful of those things which anger us. We should make sure that, if we do become angry, it is for a just reason. When anger arises, we should start moving toward forgiveness. Most of all, we should allow patience, kindness, and gentleness temper our anger. Anger should be slow coming and quick leaving. And, we should not keep a record of the wrongs done us. When God forgives us, he removes our sin from us permanently. He does not keep a record of it. When we keep that list of wrongs others have done, we are dishonoring our master who forgave us our own debt. It is much like the story of the servant who was forgiven a debt and immediately went out and demanded others to pay theirs. He had learned nothing of the love and forgiveness offered by the master. Let us show our understanding of that love!

We should rejoice with the truth and never delight in evil. The truth protects us, it leads us to righteousness, and away from evil. As we mature in Christ, we should be moving away from the things that dishonor him and toward those things that are revealed as good and righteous in him.

And, we should remember that in our love, we are to protect, trust, hope, and persevere. Love, when built in Christ and empowered by the Holy Spirit, never fails!

So, as our country celebrates a day of love, let us shine the example of lives of love. Let us love one another as Christ loved us and let us show that love to a world that is desperately in need of love.

Thoughts on Naomi

Two weeks ago, I started preaching through the book of Ruth. It is one of my favorite books in the bible. I love this story of love, devotion, and redemption. Several times a week, I’ve read through this wonderful little book and enjoyed the story of this family. Many times over the last couple of weeks, I have pondered Naomi and her feelings at the beginning of the story.

To give you some background, there was a terrible famine that struck during the time of the Judges. During this famine, food was scarce in Bethlehem in Judah. So, Elimelech packs up his wife and two sons and moves to Moab where there is food. After they’ve been there a while, he dies. His two sons grow and marry and then, after ten years, they two pass away. This leaves Naomi alone with her daughters-in-law.

We know something of the character of Naomi in the reaction of her daughters-in-law to her after their husbands die. They love her deeply. This isn’t a Hollywood in-law situation in which the kids don’t get along with their in-laws. Instead, these girls have found a second mother in Naomi.

Hearing that the famine in Israel has passed, Naomi decides to go back home. Other than Orpah and Ruth, she has no family in Moab and the loss she has suffered is bitter. As she prepares to leave, her Orpah and Ruth pack up to go with her. When they reach the road that will lead back to Bethlehem, Naomi tells the girls to return to their families. It is a painful moment, because the girls really love her. There are tears shed and they cling to each other desperately. Both girls want to go back with her, but she prevails upon them to go back home and find new husbands who will love and care for them. In a moment of tearful farewell, Orpah turns and returns to her family. Ruth, on the other hand, dearly loves Naomi. More, she has come to know Naomi’s God (YHWH) as her own. Resolved to stay with Naomi, she convinces her to let her go to Bethlehem with her.

When Naomi and Ruth reach Bethlehem, Naomi is greeted by her family and friends. They are excited to see her, but home has given her no more peace than Moab. In Moab, she left behind her husband and sons, but here at home, she is confronted with all the memories of her youth. She remembers her wedding to the man she loved, the two sweet little boys she held in her arms, and the joyful times they had. Her heart is filled with bitterness.

When she is greeted, she responds, “ “Don’t call me Naomi. Instead, call me Mara, for the Almighty has made life very bitter for me. I went away full, but the Lord has brought me home empty. Why call me Naomi when the Lord has caused me to suffer and the Almighty has sent such tragedy upon me?” (Ruth 1:20-21)

I’ve thought a lot about this passage. Naomi is so bitter. In the Hebrew, she actually says, “The Lord has testified against me.” She feels like she’s being judged for something she did. I’ve pondered her thoughts. Perhaps she felt like she should have spoken up when Elimelech decided to move out of Israel and to Moab. She may have thought that, if she’d warned him about staying in the promised land, she may not have lost her family. Or, perhaps she was the one who urged Elimelech to leave. In her worry over seeing her children fed, she may have urged him to pick up and leave their land only to lose her family in another one. Perhaps she felt guilty that her sons married girls who believed in different gods. Maybe she just didn’t know what to think. She only knew that she’d lost those she loved the most and couldn’t understand why.

Have you ever felt like that? Have you ever wondered why you’re going through a situation that you don’t understand? You may ask, “What did I do?” “Why is this happening?” “Does God really care?” You may think to yourself that God has set himself against you as Naomi did. You may even be bitter toward God as she was.

What Naomi couldn’t see was the story about to unfold. She was caught up in God’s redemptive plan for our world. God planned for Ruth to play an important part in the history of both Israel and for the world. It is through her that the bloodline of David comes and it is through his bloodline that Mary’s is established. And, through her, passes the bloodline to Jesus. God uses Ruth, a Moabite girl who loved Him and who loved her mother-in-law, as a step to His own Son. But, that’s not all. In the very story of Ruth’s life and Naomi’s, we see God’s love and devotion for those who love Him. We see in Him our Redeemer. We see in Him the Groom who is coming to claim His bride. In the same way that Boaz acts to restore Ruth and her family, our God acts to restore us to Himself. It is a beautiful story.

The pain that Naomi felt was very real. The loss of her husbands and sons was something that she could not understand in the moment. But, later, as she looked down into the eyes of her grandson as she cuddled him, she could see the beginning of a new life. God restored joy to her. He renewed her heart, her spirit, and her life. She saw a new hope.

Naomi wondered what she did to deserve judgment. I believe that the answer would be the same we see in John 9:3. This happened so that the works of God may be shown in her and in Ruth. We don’t always understand why God allows things to happen. But, we can rest assured that God has a plan in action for those who love Him. Like Naomi and Ruth, in God’s timing and through God’s plan, we will find restored hope, heart, and life.